Healing Is Like a Puzzle 🧩
Why Healing Often Means Finding More Than One Missing Piece
The healing journey can feel like putting together a puzzle. And unfortunately, the puzzle pieces don’t usually arrive neatly packed in a box with a beautiful picture showing us exactly where everything belongs.
Wouldn’t that be nice?
Instead, we often have to find the pieces one by one along our way. 🧩
When you think of a puzzle, you may remember putting puzzles together as a child.
Sometimes, a piece fit immediately. At other times, you were absolutely convinced that it HAD to fit—only to discover, after several minutes of pushing and squeezing, that it was the wrong piece in the wrong corner.
Nope. Not happening. Try again. 😉
Putting a puzzle together was a game.
When it comes to healing, however, things usually feel much more serious.
After all, when we are struggling, we want nothing more than for the pain, symptoms, or difficulties to finally disappear.
So why do I compare healing to a puzzle?
Because healing often does not come from one single answer, one single method, or one magical puzzle piece.
And also because you are not broken.
At your core, you are already whole, even if you do not feel that way right now.
Perhaps some of the pieces of your personal healing puzzle have been scattered, hidden, or simply have not yet found their proper place.
As those pieces gradually come together, you may begin to see the bigger picture and feel more whole, connected, and like yourself again.
Symptoms Are Just the Tip of the Iceberg
The healing journey is not about fighting symptoms or trying to silence them as quickly as possible.
Of course, medication, therapy, and medical treatment can be important, necessary, and even lifesaving. Sometimes, they give us exactly the stability and relief we need in order to take our next step.
But depending on the situation, it may also be helpful to look a little deeper:
What might be behind this symptom?
What does my body need?
What does my soul need?
What may have fallen out of balance in my life?
What might I be invited to notice?
There is something very important I want to make clear here:
I am by no means advising against medical, psychological, or psychiatric treatment!
For me, a holistic approach expressly includes receiving the appropriate professional and medical evaluation and support.
But alongside what your doctor, psychologist, psychiatrist, therapist, or another qualified professional recommends, you can also learn to listen to your own body–soul–spirit system and, of course, ask God for guidance.
Not from a place of fear or pressure. And not with the accusing question:
“What am I doing wrong?”
Instead, you can ask with love, curiosity, and compassion:
What do I truly need right now?
Finding the Different Puzzle Pieces 🧩
To me, holistic healing means seeing the whole person rather than reducing someone to a single symptom.
We do not only stare at the one puzzle piece currently lying in the middle of the table, shouting:
“Hello! I am the problem!” 😄
We look at the bigger picture.
This may involve exploring possible connections, having potential causes professionally assessed, and finding the puzzle pieces that could be important for your individual healing journey—one step at a time.
So, what might some of these puzzle pieces be?
Below, I'll list a few possible pieces of the puzzle.
Of course, there are more than the ones I'm mentioning in this blog.
🧩Puzzle Piece 1: Your Relationship With Your Creator
The most important puzzle piece on my own healing journey has always been—and still is—God.
Perhaps you speak of God, the Creator, the Divine, or the Source of all life.
Whatever words you use, you can bring everything to this highest Divine presence.
To me, God is not only my Healer but also my Guide.
You can simply ask for guidance, like for example:
"Dear God, please show me my next step. Lead me to the people, information, and opportunities that can help me now. Help me find and recognize the next piece of my healing puzzle."
You do not have to solve the entire puzzle today.
One next piece is enough.
🧩Puzzle Piece 2: Trauma and Inner Healing
Traumatic experiences and long-term stress can deeply affect our emotional and physical well-being.
Trauma does not only refer to obviously dramatic events. Experiences from childhood, early attachment wounds, a lack of safety, attention or love, emotional neglect, bullying, or situations in which we felt helpless and alone can also leave lasting traces.
Birth trauma, prenatal experiences, generational trauma, and emotional burdens passed down through generations play an important role too.
For many people, trauma-sensitive support is an important part of their personal healing puzzle.
🧩Puzzle Piece 3: Regulating Your Nervous System
When your nervous system has been under stress for a long time, it may remain in survival mode, even when the immediate danger has passed. You might feel constantly anxious and on edge, completely exhausted and shut down, or find yourself moving between the two.
Learning to regulate your nervous system can help your body rediscover a sense of safety. Gentle practices such as conscious breathing, movement, dancing, rest, time in nature, supportive relationships, play, and moments of joy can all become part of this process.
A daily routine for your nervous system can be super supportive too.
The work I offer through the Compassion Key, EFT, and other gentle, trauma-sensitive methods can also support this process. These approaches may help to release emotional stress, ease the burden your system has been carrying, and support your nervous system in moving out of survival mode and toward greater safety, balance, and regulation.
Rather than forcing your body to change, we meet what is present with compassion and gently create space for relief, healing, and new possibilities.
Healing begins as you listen to it with compassion and gently show your body, one small step at a time:
You are safe now. You no longer have to live in constant survival mode.
🧩Puzzle Piece 4: Inner and Spiritual Freedom / Deliverance / Liberation
For me, healing and liberation/deliverance often go hand in hand.
The freedom journey is a process of gradually releasing whatever keeps us bound, small, or disconnected from life, God, others and ourselves: Fear, shame, guilt, curses, old vows, inner prisons, imprints, addictions, entities, demons, etc. It is about becoming freer. Freer to breathe. Freer to feel. Freer to choose. Freer to express.
And freer to live.
🧩Puzzle Piece 5: Your Thoughts
Our thoughts have a powerful influence on how we feel, the decisions we make, and the way we experience our lives. You might have heard people say that thoughts create and shape our lives.
Thoughts alone do not explain every illness. No one is to blame for becoming ill because they supposedly “thought the wrong thoughts.”
But it does make a difference whether your thoughts continually condemn and discourage you or whether they strengthen, comfort, and open you to new possibilities.
What thoughts are running through your mind every day?
Are they thoughts such as:
“I will never make it.”"I'm a failure." "Something is wrong with me.”“There is no hope for me.”
Or:
“I am on my way.”“I am allowed to receive support.”“Healing and change are possible for me.” “My story is not over yet.”
🧩Puzzle Piece 6: Your Subconscious Mind
Your subconscious mind is a little like the soil in a garden.
Healthy, strong roots can grow in this soil, producing beautiful flowers and delicious fruit.
But sometimes, we also discover old, unhealthy, or rotting roots: deeply held beliefs, fears, protective patterns, or conditioning that no longer serve us.
When that happens, there is no need to attack the garden in frustration.
That does not usually help the tomatoes—or the roses. 😉
Instead, we can gently tend the soil, remove unhealthy roots, and plant new seeds.
Seeds of truth. Seeds of love. Seeds of joy. Seeds of freedom. Seeds of life. Seeds of success.
Then we give them time, patience, and loving care... and perhaps a generous helping of Divine fertilizer. ✨ And in perfect divine timing we will see the fruits... 🍇
🧩Puzzle Piece 7: Ancestral Imprints and Family Patterns
Certain patterns, beliefs, imprints, curses, wounds, and burdens can be passed down through families and across generations. Perhaps similar fears, addictions, relationship or financial struggles, losses, or secrets that no one was allowed to talk about have repeatedly appeared in your family.
Unprocessed grief surrounding miscarriages, abortions, early deaths, lack, poverty, or family members who were rejected or excluded may also affect the family system and the individuals in it.
It can be deeply healing to look at these stories with compassion, recognize possible connections, and release these ancestral imprints.
🧩Puzzle Piece 8: High Sensitivity and Empathy
Highly sensitive, highly perceptive, and empathic people often notice and feel a great deal.
Moods. Unspoken tension. Other people’s emotions. The atmosphere in a room. And even subtle inner or spiritual impressions.
When they do not yet understand how sensitively their nervous system responds, they may assume that everything they perceive belongs to them.
“Why do I suddenly feel so sad?”“Why am I completely exhausted after this conversation?”“Why do I feel so much when no one has said anything?”“Am I going crazy?”
No, dear one. You are not crazy.
Perhaps you simply perceive more—and more deeply—than many other people do.
When you learn to distinguish between what belongs to you and what does not, establish healthy boundaries, and care for your nervous system, what once felt like a burden may increasingly reveal itself as a valuable gift.
🧩Puzzle Piece 9: Crisis as a Chance and Spiritual Awakening
Sometimes, a crisis or illness causes us to pause and question the way we have been living.
Being ill does not mean that you have failed or done something wrong.
But in the middle of a difficult season, some people begin to hear a deeper call:
I cannot—and do not want to—continue living the way I have been living.
Perhaps life is inviting you to awaken and reconnect with your true self.
To take your needs seriously. To rediscover your gifts. To reclaim your creativity. To find your voice. And to realign your life with what truly sets your heart on fire.
A crisis can be deeply painful. But sometimes, it can also be a chance and become a doorway to a new life.
Of course, a life change can also come about without a crisis or illness—for example, through an encounter with someone, or a movie, a book, or anything else that awakens you and makes you realize that a change is necessary in your life.
🧩 Puzzle Piece 10: Your Divine Purpose and Gifts
When you begin to discover and develop the gifts God has placed within you and share them with others in order to serve, it can have a very positive impact on your overall health and well-being.
Unfortunately, however, there are also many cases where health initially takes a turn for the worse. This is because you still have imprints in your soul and in your energy like for example the persecution imprint. When you release these imprints, your body will no longer react with illness to your living out of your gifts and calling. Then you can finally live out your gifts in good health and share them with the world, truly blossoming and shining bright. If you’d like help dissolving these imprints, please feel free to reach out to me.
🧩Puzzle Piece 11: Self-Love, Self-Acceptance, Self-Worth, and Healthy Boundaries
Alongside physical and biological factors, unresolved emotional pain—such as deep self-rejection, shame, or patterns of self-neglect—may also affect a person’s stress levels, well-being, and healing journey.
This does not mean that these emotional struggles caused the illness, but they may be valuable pieces of the puzzle to explore with compassion.
How do you speak to yourself when you made a mistake or when you are struggling?
Do you treat yourself like someone you love or like a broken project that needs to start functioning properly as quickly as possible?
Healing does not need more inner pressure.
Healing needs safety, love, compassion and patience.
This includes self-compassion, self-acceptance, and the understanding that your worth does not depend on how healthy, productive, perfect, or “spiritually evolved” you happen to be right now.
Healthy boundaries are part of healing too.
Sometimes, a loving no can be an extremely powerful remedy.
You might need to say no to others and say yes to yourself and your health.
🧩Puzzle Piece 12: Holistic Health and Lifestyle
Our daily lifestyle can also be an important piece of the healing puzzle.
Depending on your individual circumstances—and in consultation with qualified professionals where appropriate—this may include:
finding a way of eating that supports you and is right for you
nutritional supplements where needed
sufficient sleep and rest, regular circadian rhythm
regular physical activity / movement
sunlight and time in nature
a supportive daily rhythm
reducing long-term stress
creating a healthy balance between activity and rest
supportive and loving relationships
making room for joy, creativity, play, family, friends, and supportive community
Yes, joy, play and laughter are part of a holistically healthy life too.
Laughter is one of the best medicines! 😂
Healing also happens while dancing in the kitchen, laughing with someone you love, walking barefoot through the grass or watching a family of ducks boldly refusing to swim in an orderly row. 🦆✨😂
Welcome to the Super Mario Land of Your Healing Journey
These are only a few examples of possible puzzle pieces. Of course, there are many more.
For me—and for many people I have had the privilege of supporting—the healing journey can sometimes feel a little like a Super Mario game.
Imagine moving through different worlds and levels.
You collect knowledge, insights, and experiences. You meet helpful people. You discover doors that were invisible before. You stumble over obstacles, get back up, and continue your journey.
Sometimes, you think:
“Now I understand it! I have made it! I am finally through!”
And then—surprise!—the next level opens. 😂
But with every puzzle piece you find, you begin to see more of the larger picture.
You receive the knowledge, support, or insight that helps you take another step forward.
Some puzzle pieces may be similar for many people. Others will be completely unique to you.
Because this is your puzzle.
No two puzzles are exactly the same. And no two healing journeys are exactly the same.
That is why I cannot give you one formula that works for everyone.
There is no “Three Easy Steps and You Will Be Healed Forever.” There is no single magical method that works identically for every human being.
God Is Your Magic Formula
Perhaps the most important advice I can offer you for your personal Super Mario Puzzle Adventure is this:
Always ask God for guidance and help. God is your only magic formula.
Ask to be led to the right people, professionals, books, videos, courses, information, treatments, and remedies.
And then remain open and attentive and follow the signs and inner nudges.
Sometimes, the next puzzle piece looks different from what you expected.
It may be smaller. Quieter. Far less spectacular.
Perhaps it does not say:
“Change your entire life immediately!”
Perhaps it simply says:
“Call this person today.”“Make that appointment.”“Allow yourself to rest.”“Finally talk about what happened.”“Set this boundary.”“Go outside and get some fresh air.”“Ask for help.”
One small puzzle piece can be the beginning of a very big change.
Sometimes, Together Is Better
There are seasons when we walk part of the journey on our own.
And then there are seasons when we clearly sense:
Now is the time to receive support.
With a trustworthy person by your side, the path can become clearer, lighter, and sometimes even quicker.
And—very importantly—collecting the puzzle pieces together is often simply more fun. 😉
If you would like support on your healing journey, I would be honored to walk alongside you. 💕
Together, we will look at your individual situation and let ourselves be guided by the Divine, one step at a time. I will not only hold the magnifying glass while we search for the missing puzzle pieces.😉
I will encourage you and strengthen your hope and faith and I will hold the space for you and your transformation. If it feels right to you, we can let the Divine guide us to the roots in your subconscious, so that deep healing work can take place.
I do not claim to be perfect or to have every single piece of my own puzzle neatly in place.
But I have been walking this path for many years. Along the way, I have gathered many valuable puzzle pieces, gained deep experience and professional expertise, and learned to recognize patterns and connections that may be difficult to see when you are right in the middle of your own story.
You will know if and when this kind of support feels right for you.
Ask God for guidance.
And if you sense that I may be the right person to support you, I warmly invite you to book a free Discovery and Clarity Call with me. During this call, we will explore:
where you are right now
what you currently need
whether I am the right person to accompany you
whether the chemistry between us feels right
and what kind of support is best for you in your current situation
There is absolutely no pressure or obligation during or after our conversation.
You can take all the time you need to reflect and feel into your decision.
You alone decide whether you would like us to walk part of your journey together.
I would love to meet you personally and to support you. 💕
And please remember:
You don’t have to solve your entire healing puzzle today.
You don’t need to know what the finished picture will look like.
Just ask God to show you your next piece and then take one small step.🧩✨
With love, healing vibes and blessings 💖
Malaika
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